(Entry kali ni agak panjang sikit ye..errkk..ada ke entry ko pendek2..but this time can I talk something about L.O.V.E , M.I.S.T.A.K.E & C.H.A.N.C.E in relationship...saya tak berapa suka sgt tulis something berkaitan dgn "L" words ni...as myself always make mistake and still learning...anyway saya tulis this entry agak lama dah..just dont feel to share..but it hit my thought again n again..and this time sharing, is more like confession of my love life..pengakuan hidup..hahahah..so here it is..)
It goes one day, saya dan suami tgh tgk movie...ada scene couple gaduh...movie apa x ingat plak..suami saya dgn serius dia cakap pd saya..."u know, girls always break their promise"..dahhh pulak..nak cari gaduh ler tu..hehe..then dia smbg lg.."for me its ok under certain reasons..but boys shouldn't break their promise..boys should firm with words..dont say anything if u know u have doubt to fulfill your promise..it is so deceiving"..saya tanya dia kenapa...dia ckp "woman is very complex..sometimes they dont know what they said..what they promise..girls are just like that..so immature..especially when they are in anger...they just blast out..I didnt say all boys have maturity..they also bad in controlling anger..i just said boys SHOULD have maturity..to deal with girls".lama saya nak hadam ayat2 suami saya tu..
Then saya teringat masa saya pergi kursus kahwin dulu..ustaz ni pernah ckp..nak ibaratkan wanita yg tengah marah..ianya seperti air yg kita didihkan dlm periuk api..air itu menggelegak..amarah wanita itu adalah ibarat air yg menggelegak panas dlm periuk...nak cool down kan wanita tersebut..all u need is to turn off the fire..tutup je api stove tu..kalau xditutup apinya air itu akn membuak dan keluar dr periuk..haa gitulah ibaratnya..krg tafsirknlh sndr perumpamaan smua tu..its not me saying eh..ustaz tu yg ckp..but I agreed with him..sbb tu Allah bagi lafaz talaq tu pada lelaki..sbb tu hikmahnya lelaki ada 9 akal 1 nafsu..sbb tu ada prosedur dlm islam untuk hukum para isteri...termasuklah asingkan tempat tidur..once isteri rasa diabaikan..atau dipulaukan then only she understands the pain..baru terkial2 nak fikir kesalahan sendiri...hahah..sayalh tu...
Saya sedar saya ada byk weakness..especially in controlling my anger...saya sgt kuat merajuk...kuat cemburu..(pd org yg saya syg jelh)...many times saya ckp dgn suami saya "i dont want to love u anymore".."i hate you".."dont talk to me"...masuk bilik kunci pintu...hahah...sgt klise kan...but still dia pujuk saya...n then bila da baik semula dia selalu ckp at the end."I really married to a little girl"...percayalah..perangai wanita tu lain sgt bila dia dgn suami/kekasih dia..compare dia dgn kawan2 atau keluarga...xkesahlh dia boss ke dkt ofis atau sesapa pun drg ni..."gedik-manja" dia tetap lain...sbb tu ada istilah 'drama queen'...girls fulllllll of dramas...hahahahha..mengong....but one thing for sure...suami saya tau smua kata2 dlm kemarahan saya tu..saya x maksud kn pun..it just moment of anger..sbb tu dia ckp its ok if girls break the promise....perempuan mungkin keanak2an...tp kami tak jahat...cuma akal dan lafaz xpernah nak selari..astaghfirullah..tp lps tu saya minta maaf eh..buat salah lg tu belakang cerita...hahahha..bila ler ko ni nak berubah, farah..
Anyway..saya xtau berapa byk kesalahan yg saya dah buat pd suami..and yet he still give me chance(s)..still maafkn saya..kdg2 dia x tegur kesalahan saya..dia just bg saya masa utk fikir sendiri..and belajar sndiri dr kesalahan...kdg2 dia akan nasihatkn dan fahamkan saya...it depends dgn kesalahan2 yg saya buat...i write this not to talk bout our marriage...but this is what actually we need to see in relationship...complete each other...saya akan TETAP melakukan kesalahan...saya tetap akan ckp "be, i promise i WON'T DO that again"..and after saying that i SERIOUSLY TAK PERNAH plan langsung pun nak break the promise..it just happened tanpa sedar...tp kalaulh suami saya x bole terima semua kesalahan2 saya, dari dulu lagi, saya dah ditinggalkan rasanya...(allahu...sebak gila kot tulis semua ni)
After all, that is what love is for..saya percaya hanya LOVE je yg MUNGKIN boleh menyelamatkan sesuatu hubungan tu..not the kids(we dont even have one)..not the memories, not the future...nothing..ALL U NEED IS LOVE..but i agreed..love only is not enough..byk benda kena dititikberatkan..tolerancies, understanding,caring,supporting..smua tu jgk penting...smua tu ibarat rencah nak kuatkn lg hubungan tu..but believe in me, lelaki ada cara unik mereka sendiri utk handle kita..keep on respecting them..accept their words..and DONT BE EGO UNTUK MINTA MAAF...plz girls..listen to this..dont make things get more worst...its ok to do mistakes..but ITS NOT OKAY IF -->u did mistake -->u dont realize it -->and u dont learn from the mistake..
I am really a bad wife..saya tak layak nak bagi advice..or nak bagi falsafah ttg love or marriage life...its on you to take my words or just leave it....I just write from my own experience...and my own learning...yg lemah, yg buruk, yg salah..saya x pernah nafi itu mmg drp kelemahan saya sendiri..
But when I said I am sorry...I reallllyyyy reallly meant it..and I will learnt from it...that is my promise which i will never break...
Till we meet again, my own blog!
Assalamualaikum
#whenfarahtalkaboutlove
#mirageindesert
#fromdesertwithlove
It goes one day, saya dan suami tgh tgk movie...ada scene couple gaduh...movie apa x ingat plak..suami saya dgn serius dia cakap pd saya..."u know, girls always break their promise"..dahhh pulak..nak cari gaduh ler tu..hehe..then dia smbg lg.."for me its ok under certain reasons..but boys shouldn't break their promise..boys should firm with words..dont say anything if u know u have doubt to fulfill your promise..it is so deceiving"..saya tanya dia kenapa...dia ckp "woman is very complex..sometimes they dont know what they said..what they promise..girls are just like that..so immature..especially when they are in anger...they just blast out..I didnt say all boys have maturity..they also bad in controlling anger..i just said boys SHOULD have maturity..to deal with girls".lama saya nak hadam ayat2 suami saya tu..
Then saya teringat masa saya pergi kursus kahwin dulu..ustaz ni pernah ckp..nak ibaratkan wanita yg tengah marah..ianya seperti air yg kita didihkan dlm periuk api..air itu menggelegak..amarah wanita itu adalah ibarat air yg menggelegak panas dlm periuk...nak cool down kan wanita tersebut..all u need is to turn off the fire..tutup je api stove tu..kalau xditutup apinya air itu akn membuak dan keluar dr periuk..haa gitulah ibaratnya..krg tafsirknlh sndr perumpamaan smua tu..its not me saying eh..ustaz tu yg ckp..but I agreed with him..sbb tu Allah bagi lafaz talaq tu pada lelaki..sbb tu hikmahnya lelaki ada 9 akal 1 nafsu..sbb tu ada prosedur dlm islam untuk hukum para isteri...termasuklah asingkan tempat tidur..once isteri rasa diabaikan..atau dipulaukan then only she understands the pain..baru terkial2 nak fikir kesalahan sendiri...hahah..sayalh tu...
Saya sedar saya ada byk weakness..especially in controlling my anger...saya sgt kuat merajuk...kuat cemburu..(pd org yg saya syg jelh)...many times saya ckp dgn suami saya "i dont want to love u anymore".."i hate you".."dont talk to me"...masuk bilik kunci pintu...hahah...sgt klise kan...but still dia pujuk saya...n then bila da baik semula dia selalu ckp at the end."I really married to a little girl"...percayalah..perangai wanita tu lain sgt bila dia dgn suami/kekasih dia..compare dia dgn kawan2 atau keluarga...xkesahlh dia boss ke dkt ofis atau sesapa pun drg ni..."gedik-manja" dia tetap lain...sbb tu ada istilah 'drama queen'...girls fulllllll of dramas...hahahahha..mengong....but one thing for sure...suami saya tau smua kata2 dlm kemarahan saya tu..saya x maksud kn pun..it just moment of anger..sbb tu dia ckp its ok if girls break the promise....perempuan mungkin keanak2an...tp kami tak jahat...cuma akal dan lafaz xpernah nak selari..astaghfirullah..tp lps tu saya minta maaf eh..buat salah lg tu belakang cerita...hahahha..bila ler ko ni nak berubah, farah..
Anyway..saya xtau berapa byk kesalahan yg saya dah buat pd suami..and yet he still give me chance(s)..still maafkn saya..kdg2 dia x tegur kesalahan saya..dia just bg saya masa utk fikir sendiri..and belajar sndiri dr kesalahan...kdg2 dia akan nasihatkn dan fahamkan saya...it depends dgn kesalahan2 yg saya buat...i write this not to talk bout our marriage...but this is what actually we need to see in relationship...complete each other...saya akan TETAP melakukan kesalahan...saya tetap akan ckp "be, i promise i WON'T DO that again"..and after saying that i SERIOUSLY TAK PERNAH plan langsung pun nak break the promise..it just happened tanpa sedar...tp kalaulh suami saya x bole terima semua kesalahan2 saya, dari dulu lagi, saya dah ditinggalkan rasanya...(allahu...sebak gila kot tulis semua ni)
After all, that is what love is for..saya percaya hanya LOVE je yg MUNGKIN boleh menyelamatkan sesuatu hubungan tu..not the kids(we dont even have one)..not the memories, not the future...nothing..ALL U NEED IS LOVE..but i agreed..love only is not enough..byk benda kena dititikberatkan..tolerancies, understanding,caring,supporting..smua tu jgk penting...smua tu ibarat rencah nak kuatkn lg hubungan tu..but believe in me, lelaki ada cara unik mereka sendiri utk handle kita..keep on respecting them..accept their words..and DONT BE EGO UNTUK MINTA MAAF...plz girls..listen to this..dont make things get more worst...its ok to do mistakes..but ITS NOT OKAY IF -->u did mistake -->u dont realize it -->and u dont learn from the mistake..
I am really a bad wife..saya tak layak nak bagi advice..or nak bagi falsafah ttg love or marriage life...its on you to take my words or just leave it....I just write from my own experience...and my own learning...yg lemah, yg buruk, yg salah..saya x pernah nafi itu mmg drp kelemahan saya sendiri..
But when I said I am sorry...I reallllyyyy reallly meant it..and I will learnt from it...that is my promise which i will never break...
Till we meet again, my own blog!
Assalamualaikum
#whenfarahtalkaboutlove
#mirageindesert
#fromdesertwithlove
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